Joy and Growing Up
Is This True? This Line ‘Haunted’ Me for Weeks…
As I watched Inside Out 2, I found myself processing a particular quote that stayed with me for weeks. It led me to reflect on childhood memories and the nature of joy. Growing up in rural Western Pennsylvania (Kennerdell, population 241), my childhood was filled with baseball, swimming, sled riding, family, and all the simple things that make a kid happy.
Then I started asking the question: What makes a childhood joyful? There are likely several factors, but two that stood out to me were:
- High Innocence
- Low Responsibility
High innocence: People are basically good. Low responsibility: Other than the spelling test, I don’t have a lot on my shoulders.
Thus, high levels of joy.
As you grow up, innocence lowers (people are not always good), and responsibility increases (getting into college, finding a job, paying the bills). If this is what joy is tied to, then what Joy said in the movie makes sense: “Maybe this is what happens when you grow up… you feel less joy.”
Because we’ve been doing a series on the life of Joseph, I started tracing this line of thought through his story. If Joseph was somewhat of a “happy-go-lucky dreamer” as a teenager, what fed into that? Again, you can find both elements:
- High Innocence: Even though his brothers didn’t love him, God had given him big dreams, and he was his dad’s favorite.
- Low Responsibility: At 17, his brothers were tending the sheep, but Joseph wasn’t out in the field with them.
Then it all comes crashing down. When your family plots your murder and sells you into slavery, innocence is lost quickly. Over the next 20 years, the pattern continues: betrayal, temptation, false accusations, imprisonment—event after event that could shatter your worldview that “people are good.” Simultaneously, Joseph’s responsibilities grow: second in command in Potiphar’s house, second in command in the jail, and second in command in Egypt (during an international crisis where the feeding of the entire known world depended on him).
Joseph is now 37. His innocence has been shattered. His responsibility is heavy. And to top it off, he is confronted with seeing his brothers face to face. How does he react? Is he jaded and bitter? Does he seek revenge? Quite the opposite. The Bible says we find Joseph “weeping with joy.”
It’s one thing to have joy as a child. But is joy possible “after”? After you’ve been hurt? After the layers of responsibility pile up? Absolutely! If Joseph did it, you can too. How? Joseph knew what to embrace and what to release:
1. Embrace Your Emotions, Especially Weeping (v. 2)
Psalm 126:5 says: They that sow in tears shall reap in joy. Tears are seeds of joy. When you turn off your tears, you turn off the sowing of seeds of joy.
2. Embrace People (v. 4)
C.S. Lewis puts it poignantly in The Four Loves:
There is no safe investment. To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly be broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give your heart to no one, not even to an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements; lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket – safe, dark, motionless, airless – it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. The alternative to tragedy, or at least to the risk of tragedy, is damnation. The only place outside Heaven where you can be perfectly safe from all the dangers and perturbations of love is Hell.
3. Release Hurt & Revenge (v. 5a)
Next-level forgiveness:
- Forgiving people before they even ask.
- Helping people forgive themselves.
- Blessing the people who hurt you.
The time to forgive is every time you remember.
4. Embrace the Sovereignty of God in Your Situation (v. 5b)
5. Embrace the Responsibility of Your Assignment While Releasing the Ultimate Responsibility to the Lord (v. 8)
I don’t know what hurt you’ve been through. I don’t know what responsibility is weighing heavy on you. But I speak Joy over your soul. I speak Joy AGAIN in your life!
Learn from the life of Joseph how to release revenge, hurts, and wrongs and increase joy and dream again!
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